Unwanted Wedding Guests

by Sheila
(MO)

My fiancé and I have decided to not invite his mother to our wedding because she is a doped up drug addict that we have not spoken to for over a year. Actually, none of her kids want anything to do with her and refuse to go to our wedding if she will be there.

Well, through the family she found out when and where our wedding will be and has said that she is going to come anyway. This could be a major problem because she will cause a big fighting scene. How do we prevent her from coming? Our wedding is an outside wedding. Can we get a Restraining order?



Our Thoughts

This is truly an unfortunate situation, and it must cause a lot of extra stress for you. There are a couple things that you can do.

First, have you made it clear to his mother that you do not want her at your wedding? A good first step might be to let her know that she isn’t invited and why.

This can be done via letter if you aren’t on speaking terms with her. You may also want to politely spread the word through you invited guests that she is not welcome at your wedding.

A restraining order might not be a bad idea in this situation. Get it several months in advance of your wedding so she is aware of it to avoid any extra stress right before your wedding day.

The other option is hiring security guards for your wedding. There are companies that will do this, and you can have a list of attendees that the security guards can check against to enter your wedding.

You may want to do both – get a restraining order and hire security for your wedding day. It is unfortunate that it has come to this, but you need to take steps to prevent anything from ruining your wedding day.

The goal is to have as less extra stress as possible for you on your wedding day, so if there is no other way to resolve the situation you should take these steps.

Good luck with everything, and we hope it works out well for you. Let us know what you decide and how your wedding went by adding a comment to this entry.

To Your Wedding!
Danielle & Stephen